Growth in this human experience
We all grow at different phases and rates within our human existence. Physically, Mentally, and Spiritually. We all, for the most part, try to be a good human - at least I believe that goodness is innately within us, whether we choose to tap into it or ignore it.
Yet, doesn’t life sometimes seem so simple and easy for some, yet more difficult for others?
Could it be perspective possibly, or the lens in which we view ourself and others? Could it be our level of self love, affecting areas we are not even aware of?
I think we can likely agree, that two people will never think exactly alike, even in the same identical situation, with similar view. Why? Because we are all in a construct of our own views, beliefs and wounds that have been instilled in us over time, since birth…. or for some, possibly even tracing back to the womb - and each experience affects how we view through our lens.
It’s so obvious we all have individual perception, so why do we try so hard to please everyone or have them see things from our view? Remind yourself no one can see from your perspective, because it’s uniquely yours, and in a balanced state, you shouldn’t need them to in the first place.
A simple example of perspective is two people going to an amusement park. Both in line to ride the roller coaster… After the ride , one loves it… adrenaline is pumping… “That was awesome - lets do it again!!” and the next person is trembling in fear and maybe even sick to their stomach and says “Im out of here - no thanks - never again.” The actual ride was the same, but the outcomes completely different.. Neither is right or wrong, just a personal experience.
I recently sat in a room with Deepak Chopra, MD as he stated, “All you see and perceive is a story - symbols of reality. The mind is who we THINK we are, but we are not the mind.”
When you understand that the conditioning that started at birth, and continued for a lifetime (from all relationships) - parents, partners, teachers, family, friends, bosses, etc.. have all helped create, shape and mold our reality, or better said, our constraints…. we are able to look at ourself with love and admiration because despite all these constructs…. our truest self, is perfect - and in humility, we are so much more than any label we might attach ourself to - call this the divinity within.
Sure we have been hurt, knowingly and unknowingly by people in our lives. There is no one alive who can escape the wounds that accumulate over time - we humans sure can try to numb it out, ignore or stuff it…. yet the healthy response is to feel and heal. To Love. To offer forgiveness to self and others. To begin to look with a more balanced and loving lens - this starts with self.
Going back to the basic “treat others how we want to be treated.” What if we viewed our tough lessons as gifts that help develop our next phase. A key that unlocks the soul.
I recently picked up the book “The Genius of Empathy” by Judith Orloff, MD. Before I even started to read it, I flipped through the pages and came across this beautiful Empathy statement:
“Im sorry you were hurt. I apologize on behalf of everyone who ever hurt you or didn’t appreciate your gifts or sensitive nature. I am sorry you were hurt. I am sorry for the times no one was there to comfort or protect you. I admire you, I respect you. Please accept my apology for those who didn’t understand you in a heartfelt way. You are a lovable person who deserves to be cherished.”
Consider allowing these words to penetrate every part of your being and allow the sun to shine its magic in your heart. You are enough. You are not broken and never were.
What if the life lessons unlocked something in us that was meant to come out? A gift that brakes generational baggage once and for all.
What if we chose to blame no one. What if the one we forgave was ourself at the deepest level?
What if today we chose a higher view. A view that sees all and answers with authenticity and love. A view that doesn’t need to be understood because at the center of it is wholeness.
Our inner guidance can easily reflect how aligned or misaligned we might be with our higher self, and sometimes a higher view will help broaden our perspective and remove us from that familiar victim mentality. Sometimes we just need a pity party and a good cry, and that’s ok too.
Im not saying life is roses….its quite contrarily, often not, and if it is, in a perfect life, you wouldn’t have the growth that your soul longs for.
So take a deep breath in. Hug your child self and tell him/her that it’s all going to be ok. This is the beginning to self work and mastery. Welcome. All is well.
